Single Scene Newsletter 6-28-03 Issue 81 Copyright Single Scene 2003 http://www.azsinglescene.com singles@globalcrossing.net IN THIS ISSUE: * Singles News Briefs * Advice from Aunt Janet -- Summer romance hasn’t changed * July Dating & Mingling Opportunities --------------------------------------- Get timely tips on how to handle the mysteries of dating by signing up for Harlan’s dating e-newsletter. Just send a blank e-mail to dating_again-subscribe@topica.com. ----------------------------------------------- Singles News Briefs Nearly half of U.S. military are single. Newsweek reports that 42% of our military personnel are single with no children. Another 6% are single with children. Can socio-economic status come between you? According to Money magazine, 63% of Americans think it's hard to be friends with someone who has more money than they do; 23% find it difficult if the friends make less money; and 14% didn't have an answer. Viagra etiquette for the single guy. Viagra may enhance the experience, but timing and interaction count too. AARP magazine recently had a column on "Viagra Etiquette" offering advice for single guys. Honesty is the best policy; let her know you use "the pill." Be discreet, though; leave the room to take it. But never take the pill because you "just assume" you'll have the opportunity to need it. Ladies learning to love athletics. A recent national survey found that half of American women engage in sports activities at least twice a month, and 35% are involved at least twice a week. The most active age group is 25 to 34. Take a real day off. Every now and then make at least one of your days off a real day off, advises Redbook magazine. Don't turn on the tv, ignore voice mail and the Internet. Just relax, hang out with friends and family, or tackle enjoyable home projects. Just the way you are. In a poll conducted by American Demographics magazine, Americans were asked to rank how happy they are with their personal appearance. On a 1 to 10 scale with 1 the least happy, 47% ranked themselves a 5 or lower. Only 28% of us consider ourselves "attractive" and just 14% think we are "fit" or "sexy" (11%). While 44% consider themselves "average," 26% describe themselves as "heavy." Just 18% of men and 10% of women say they are happy enough with their bodies that they wouldn't make changes if they could. Those age 65 and older are even more likely to be happy just the way they are. You can change. Research reported recently in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that "the big five" personality traits can improve with age. Conscientiousness improves in the 20s, agreeableness (related to warmth and generosity) increases in the 30s. Neuroticism (such as worrying and instability) declines with age. Extroversion declined slightly with age in women, but stayed about the same in men. But openness (willingness to try new things) declined slightly in both men and women with age. Quotable. "Forgiveness does not mean condoning what has been done. Forgiving means abandoning your right to pay back the perpetrator in his own coin, but it is a loss that liberates the victim." Desmond Tutu, Anglican archbishop of Johannesburg, and Nobel laureate. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>< SHARE WITH A FRIEND-- PLEASE FORWARD THIS ISSUE ! If you haven't already done so, please forward this issue to your single friends and associates. Thanks so much! <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>< ADVICE FROM AUNT JANET -- Summer romances haven’t changed As a kid, did you “fall in love” at summer camp? Or maybe while spending a couple of weeks on vacation at your grandparents’ place? The one thing that summer romances tend to have in common is that they are relationships that can work for a short period of time because they are free of the normal tugs and stresses of life. Nobody has to keep up on their homework. There are no serious demands on your time. Vacations are like that for adults too. The life we live while on vacation is not our normal life -- it’s not supposed to be. So the budding romance of summer is not likely to reach full bloom for the long run unless it can also withstand the rigors of our “real” lives. This is not to say don’t date or develop a romance while you’re on vacation. Just don’t expect the person to fit perfectly into your every day life once the vacation is over. ---------------------------------------- For help in adjusting to and even enjoying single life, visit our website at http://divorcerecovery101.com. YOU CAN HELP! Our singles' Internet information, maintained solely to help newly divorced and widowed people, which means we have little budget to promote our services. Newly singled people will find out about it and get help only if readers like you (word of mouth) tell them about the sites and newsletters. Next time you attend a support group, class, seminar, singles event etc. please do both us and them a favor by recommending and telling them about these sites, newsletters, and courses. Remind them these are all totally FREE. ------------------------------------------------ July Dating & Mingling (For a date idea for every day of the month, see the Single Scene web site, www.azsinglescene.com.) July 1 (Tues.): Every Tues., East Coast Swing lessons, 9 pm-12:30 am, Bash on Ash, 230 W. Fifth St., Tempe. $5. 480-966-8200. July 2 (Wed.): First Wednesday, Adults' Night Out, Arizona Science Center, 7th St. & Washington, Phoenix. 5:30-9 p.m. Includes a special program or lecture. $8 adm., plus $2 for giant-screen film or planetarium. 602-716-2000. July 3 (Th.): Light up the sky festival, Maryvale Baseball Park, 3600 N. 51st Ave., Phoenix. 7-9 p.m. Free musical entertainment and youth rides. Fireworks at 9:10 p.m. Info 602-262-4539. Sponsored by City of Phoenix. July 4 (Fri.): Celebrations will abound throughout the state. This year the big Phoenix Fabulous 4th will be held at Steele Indian School Park, 3rd St. & Indian School, from 4 to 10 pm. Live entertainment throughout. Admission is free. Info 602-262-4627. July 5 (Sat.): Every Saturday, classic cars & motorcycles exhibited approx. 5-9 p.m. (or later) around McDonalds at the Scottsdale Pavilions, Pima & Indian Bend Roads in Scottsdale. Free. 480-991-6007. July 6 (Sun.): McCormick-Stillman Railroad Park hosts its annual free Concert Series Sunday evenings 7:30-9 pm to July 13. Live bands with a different variety of music each week. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Park is on southeast corner of Scottsdale Road and Indian Bend. Info 480-312-2312. July 7 (Mon.): Art Salon, Pulliam Auditorium, Burton Barr Central Library, 1221 N. Central Ave., Phoenix. 6:30 pm reception, 7 pm lecture/discussion on art & artists. Free. 602-262-4636. July 8 (Tues.): Movie Tuesdays movie discussion series, every Tuesday, 5:30-7 p.m. Pulliam Auditorium, Burton Barr Central Library, 1221 N. Central, Phoenix. Free. 602-262-4636. July 9 (Wed.): Every Wed., 7-10 pm, coffee house with performers and a jam session, Encanto Park Clubhouse, Phoenix. 602-261-8993. July 10 (Thur.): Summer Spectacular ArtWalk, in the Scottsdale Gallery district, 6 to 9 p.m. Live music, artist receptions. Info 480-990-3939. July 11 (Fri.): Second Friday, Evening poetry reading, Changing Hands Bookstore, McClintock & Guadalupe (sw corner), Tempe. July 12 (Sat.): The second Saturday of each month, there's a free concert from 8-10 p.m. in the outdoor amphitheater at the new Steele Indian School Park, 3rd St. & Indian School, Phoenix. Info 602-495-0739. July 13 (Sun.): Every Sunday, free admission day at the Pueblo Grande Museum, 4619 E. Washington, Phoenix, on southwest archeology and culture. 1-4:45 Sunday. 602-495-0901. July 14 (Mon.): Named last year as "Best Cheap Date" by the New Times: L'Academie, 4301 N. Scottsdale Rd. (in the Galleria). This training bistro for the Scottsdale Culinary Institute, is open for lunch and dinner Monday-Friday. The gourmet food is always good, and the prices reasonable, but the service varies highly depending on what week of the training you arrive. Plan to be patient and all will be well. Reservations recommended 480-990-3773. July 15 (Tues.): Most Tuesdays there's a backgammon tournament at 7 pm at the George and Dragon pub, 4240 N. Central in Phoenix. Tourney entry is $10; bring your own board. 602-265-1992. July 16: (Wed.): Definitely too hot to be outdoors. A good night to play pool! New Times' current "Best Pool Hall" is Pool & Brew, 3215 E. Thomas, Phoenix. 602-957-2836. But "The Rep" says Best Pool Hall is Doc & Eddy's, 909 E. Minton Dr., Tempe. 480-831-0635. July 17 (Thurs.): Every Thurs., free night at Phoenix Art Museum (donations appreciated). Til 9 p.m. 1625 N. Central. 602-257-1880. July 18 (Fri.): If there's a dust storm rolling in tonight, the Compass Room (bar and restaurant) should give you a great view. If not, the place is New Time's" current "Best Drink at Sunset." Compass Room, Hyatt Regency, 122 N. Second St., Phoenix. 602-252-1234. July 19 (Sat.): Kierland Common's Plaza Stage features live music Saturdays from 7-10 p.m. thru Aug. Free. Greenway and Scottsdale Rd. July 20 (Sun., also Sat., 19th): 16th annual White Mountain Native American Art Festival, held at Blue Ridge Junior High School, Pinetop-Lakeside. Admission $8. Info 800-573-4031. July 21 (Mon.): Get some indoor exercise! New Times awarded "Best Good Old-fashioned, Unextreme Bowling" to Brunswick Mission Bell Lanes, 17210 N. 59th Ave., Glendale. 602-978-1777. July 22 (Tues.): Poetry in the Park, Encanto Park Clubhouse, 2605 N. 15th Ave., Phoenix. 7-9:30 p.m. Free. 602-262-6412. July 23 (Wed.): Love movies but hate the multiplex? You'll love this historic, single screen theater showing current films in bustling downtown Tempe. Named by The Rep as Best Place to Catch a Flick: Valley Art Theatre, 609 S. Mill Ave., Tempe. 602-222-HARK. July 24 (Thurs.): Every Thurs., Sc. Center for the Arts, Civic Center Mall, is open til 8 p.m. 480-994-ARTS. July 25 (Fri.): 28th annual Mighty Mud Mania, Chaparral Park, 5401 N. Hayden Rd. in Scottsdale. Watch kids 1 to 13 in mud-filled events 8:30 am to 2 pm. Free. 480-312-2771. July 26 (Sat.): Last Saturday: Hogs in Heat, all-you-can-eat barbecue & dance, Rock Springs Cafe, Black Canyon City (exit 242, I-17 n. of Phx.). 4 pm-? 623-374-5794. July 27 (Sun.): Every Sunday, free admission day at the Pueblo Grande Museum, 4619 E. Washington, Phoenix, on southwestarcheology and culture. 1-4:45 Sunday. 602-495-0901. July 28 (Mon.): Evenings are LONG in the summer. Escape the heat for a few hours by heading out of town for dinner. Camp Verde, Prescott and Payson are "cool" options. July 29 (Tues.): Ice cream! Ice cream! It's a soda fountain kind of day. Have sandwiches and a malted. Or just go for dessert. Split a banana split! July 30 (Wed.): How about a drink by the pool? Don't have a pool? Many of the Valley's resorts have a bar at poolside and you don't have to be staying at the hotel to hang out. July 31 (Thurs.): Thurs.-Sat. each week, Jester'z Improv Comedy Show, interactive family entertainment. 8 p.m. 7117 E. McDowell, Papago Plaza, Scottsdale. $5 Thurs. $10 Fri.-Sat. 480-423-0120. + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + + IF YOU KNOW THE RIGHT CONVERSATIONAL SKILLS, meeting people can be fun and easy ! Improve your MEETING PEOPLE skills with the HOW TO MEET PEOPLE audiocassette by Janet Jacobsen, editor of Single Scene. You’ll learn **How to overcome your fears **Three sure-fire meeting methods **Where to find interesting people **Simple, fun techniques to improve your social life NOW. To order HOW TO MEET PEOPLE, send $9.95 (first class postage & handling included) to Interpersonal Enterprises Inc. Box 6243 Dept. E Scottsdale AZ 85261-6243. Satisfaction Guaranteed!